Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood

“We’re filled with our own rightness, our own autobiography” Covey Welcome to part 5 of 7 looking at the science (or not) of Stephen Coveys ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’. Those that joined me in Habit 4 will know I am starting to despair about the apparent mismatch (or lack of dialogue at least) […]

Day 20

Welcome to day 20 of my 30 days to Sobriety. One wedding & a funeral Two thirds of the way to my goal and I am really  noticing a shift.  I see images of wine everywhere (it is really pervasive in our culture huh?) and suddenly it is just … well a picture of wine. […]

Day 18

Welcome to day 18 of my 30 days of sobriety – which focuses on affirmations. Affirmations …. just the word makes me hurt a bit. Affirmations are in the proven toolkit of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) as well as a billion self-help books, podcasts and Pinterest posts.  I understood (although I have not looked at […]

Day 17

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, most of which never happened” Mark Twain Day 17 (of my 30 days to sobriety) is again revisiting things I know.  I am not meaning to sound like a know-it-all.  It is just I have worked and read in personal development for many […]

Day 16

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing” Albert Einstein Welcome to day 16 of my 30 days to sobriety. Gee it really is becoming a bit normal this not pouring a drink (well at least not an alcoholic one) at wine o’clock.  A bit second nature maybe.  […]

Day 15

Welcome to day 15 of my 30 days to sobriety You may have noticed I can’t count and there is no day 14.  No I did not go on a bender, I got confused and skipped onto day 15.  It did not matter much as day 14 was a review and had no actions, and […]

Day 13

Welcome to day 13 of my 30 days to sobriety. Lucky 13 eh? It was also mothers day, so it’s my day all around.  I did not even have any “I deserve a wine on my day” thoughts.  This is progress. Todays homework was a bit freaky; it was based on Tapping (or the Emotional […]

Day 12

Welcome to day 12 of my 30 days to sobriety. Today was (again) content I am familiar with; it focused on the power of your subconscious mind. Which is not always swimming with you. I see my subconscious a bit like a super powerful beast, that is very obedient and has a photographic memory – […]

Day 11

Welcome to day 11 of my 30 days to sobriety. Turns out I didn’t need wine to forget stuff (its actually day 12, but I just noticed day 11 failed to launch). Before I get to 12, I want to quickly share some profound learnings I had in the homework for Day 11 (and it […]

Day 10

Welcome to day 10 or my 30 days to sobriety. One third of the way there, double digits, yippee! Todays home work was about connecting with your core values.  I could whip through this as its a thing I do/teach etc …. but like the builder with a house falling down, honouring my values is […]

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